Are you settling for ‘good enough’ days?

I settled for years. For a lackluster marriage I had no business entering. For working for less than I was worth — barely able to scrape by. Working for an unstable boss hell bent on tearing us all down to his level.

I was plodding along until I could no longer pretend I was happy. Sure I had a smile on my face, but if you looked close, you saw it didn’t quite reach my eyes. I looked around at what settling in life had gotten me, and it was a sliver of how I knew I could be spending my days. And more importantly where. This was the catalyst that put a fire under my ass.

I left that job (fired actually), got clear about what I wanted, and eventually left the States to travel and live in Italy. Geographic freedom is my JAM. 

It wasn’t easy and I had no clue what I was doing much of the time, but nothing is more scary than settling. Not even the fear of the unknown at 4 am. 

Here’s the point  — I finally woke up with startling clarity, what about you? The small talk you’re sick to death of, or the boredom you’re feeling while at a Wednesday happy hour? I know that feeling all too well. The degree you’ve always wanted, or the move you’ve been pondering for far too long, it’s not going to go away. The need to make your life unapologetically your own is going to keep whispering in your ear until it begins shouting. 

You can shove it down or try and distract yourself with mindless scrolling watching other people live their lives, but it’s all temporary.

Rather than working hard pretending you’re happy, why not get real about what you’re not happy with and make changes? I think of it as making big leaps. It’s all about getting clear about what’s not working in your life, making a plan, and doing something about it. 

Maybe you know what you want and you’re ready to make big moves, but you need a plan and some accountability. Ask yourself, what if this time were different? What if I did the thing I think about all the time but talk myself out of? What. If.

I asked myself this very question years ago. And then did the damn thing. When you’re ready, I’ll be here. 

Settling and Afraid to Leap? Download the Seven Things You Need to Know.

If you’re settling and afraid to leap, I’ve written a guide of seven things you NEED to know. These are the things I wish someone would have whispered in my ear when I was in my pre-leaping limbo. Remember — you can do this. 

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Even on the days when you feel resistance to doing them or there’s chaos around you.  Especially those days. Because those are the days you need to create the space for yourself and your mind the most. The moments when you focus in on your breathing and it slows. Your chest rising and falling slowly. Those brief moments that give you grace in the other moments.

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