Your Ultimate Guide to Busting Through Fear
Fact — I like to skip small talk and go in for big talk. Of course during coaching sessions with clients, but also at a party with someone I’ve just met or maybe with a family member I haven’t seen in awhile. Rather than discuss the mind numbing topic of weather, I want to know what you have on deck in life, if you’re lying awake at 4 am, and what’s on your wishlist.
I’ve learned by being honest with my own struggles and listening to theirs — we are virtually all the same. Identical thought patterns or “problems” that feel so unique in our head, are anything but.
You’re chock full of commonalities with the stranger in line behind you at the grocery store, your new buddy at the gym, and the second cousin you haven’t seen in 12 years because you have “nothing” to talk about.
I’ve found, by far, the most prevalent topic is fear. Not that we come out and say, “I’m scared.” Fear masquerades as doubt, worry, anxiety, or that inner self-critic and then plays out in our mindset, actions, and conversations.